I have just launched a page on my website where I will be featuring your child’s story! This will help parents with concerns and the parents of newly diagnosed children. I believe that being aware of the early signs is key! Help me spread the word by sharing your story.

Please email me your stories in the following format:

To: letsgethealing@gmail.com
Subject: My Story
Message (Please include the following in your story):
-Your name (can be a pseudonym or left anonymous)
-Your child’s name (can be a pseudonym or left anonymous)
-Where you’re from (optional- this is used to meet new, local people who are in the same boat)
-When your first concerns were and what they were
-What services or lifestyle changes, if any, that you have pursued since diagnosis

*If you have a blog or website of your own, please include that so I can put that in your story.

Benefits of Weighted Blankets for Kids with Special Needs


Read more: http://www.jadelouisedesigns.com/weighted-blanket/

Oliver’s weighted blanket seems to be the only thing that will send him to sleep. I don’t know how naps existed prior to our purchasing of one. I love supporting small businesses (and paying less money is a plus, too), so we got ours from the Etsy shop Weighted Creations. This one to be exact: https://www.etsy.com/listing/182119049/weighted-blanket?ref=shop_home_active_15

Do your children use weighted blankets? How do they like them?


I have updated the following pages:
‘Our Story’, ‘What is Autism?’, and ‘Resources’

Feel free to look them over and offer your thoughts and feedback!

I also just started a new page that is titled ‘Other Parents’ Stories’. Visit this page to read more. I’d love to feature your story on this page!

Oliver Approved & Allergy Free Bread Recipe

Allergy Free Bread

I was so fortunate to have a friend with a child on the autism spectrum point out to me that the Udi’s bread that Oliver was eating held ingredients that he was allergic to in it, which I somehow missed when ingredient glancing at the grocery store. She makes her son’s bread and gave me this delicious recipe that even my picky little eater enjoys.

1.5 cup sorghum flour
1 cup tapioca starch/flour or potato starch (not flour)
.5 cup teff flour
2 tsp xanthan gum
2 tsp Egg Replacer
1 tsp sea salt
1 tsp apple cider vinegar
4 TBSP olive oil
1.25 cup warm water (110%)
2 tsp yeast or 1 packet
2 tsp sugar

1. Mix yeast & sugar in bowl, add warm water, let proof 10 minutes or so.
2. Mix dry ingredients.
3. Add vinegar & oil.
4. Add proofed yeast and thoroughly mix in mixer or by hand (no kneading).
5. Spoon into a loaf pan, cover with plastic wrap, set aside to rise for 1 hour.
6. Preheat oven to 350.
7. Bake for 53 minutes, let cool a few minutes before removing from pan to a wire wrack.
8. After cooled, store in plastic bag. One day on counter is OK, then refrigerate.

** Comment to let everyone know how your bread turns out!

Diagnostic Evaluation Part 3

Today was Oliver’s third of four appointments for his diagnostic evaluation series. If you haven’t read how the first two went, feel free to read back to “Diagnostic Evaluation Day 1” and “Diagnostic Evaluation Day 2”. A week from today will be the day that my son may or may not (though I’m 99.9% sure he will) be officially diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Something about this moment feels haunting. I woke up today, a Thursday, and the next time that I wake up to a Thursday will be a day that I forever remember. Having my growing worries confirmed will offer relief, anxiety, support, challenges, assurance, fear, and love– to say that I’m feeling mixed emotions is an understatement. I don’t want any of this for my precious baby boy, but it’s what we’re facing and I want him to feel comfortable in his skin and happy with his life, so this monumental marker will be our first step towards the “healing” portion of my blog’s title. I started this blog to document our entire journey: initial concerns, growing worries, bringing it up to his pediatrician, struggling to find an early intervention center, undergoing his initial evaluation at the early intervention center, receiving a diagnosis, and throughout the healing process that I have so much faith in. I have hope for my son and I believe that with a lot of love, determination, and hard work we will make a major change. With that said, I can revisit my opening sentence: “Today was Oliver’s third of four appointments for his diagnostic evaluation series”. We arrived, checked in, changed his diaper, played with toys in the waiting room, and we’re then greeted by the doctor we had worked with the prior two appointments and a doctoral student who was apprenticing her. They were both very warm and friendly with Oliver and he responded with his usual shutting of his eyes, so they “can’t see him”. I strolled him, alongside the two women, down the hall and to the elevator, where we went to a higher level to enter the testing room. The room was very similar to the other room (small, simple, no windows), but this room had video cameras in each corner and two tubs full of toys. The doctoral student instructed me to sit back and observe unless she asked me to participate. She conducted the evaluation, while the main doctor took notes on his responses. I will try my best to remember everything, but there were so many tests they did with the toys that were being pulled from these seemingly bottomless tubs (I felt as though I was witnessing a real life Mary Poppins moment). She pulled a frog out and hopped it across the table– he hopped it back (first time to do anything like this). She answered a telephone– he held the second telephone to his ear, too (first time to do anything like this). She stacked blocks– he lined them up. She then wanted to see if he could pretend; she sniffed a flower, flew a toy plane, and drove a car. In between each of these, she first let him copy her, then would do the same action with a wooden block (as if the block were the flower, plane, and car). He did a semi-alright job at copying her initial actions with the toys, but he didn’t respond to or imitate the original actions when they were done with the block. She had a stuffed animal rabbit that had a remote control to make it hop but he was indifferent to it (he’s not a fan of stuffed animals at home, either). She brought out a baby doll and a baby bath to get him to help her bathe it. His only motive in this game was to get the baby from her so that he could chuck it across the room and then sign “all done”; he doesn’t like babies, plastic or in the flesh. While I’m sure I’m forgetting something, the last thing that I remember is her blowing lots and lots of bubbles around the room. He lit up, wobbled around on his tip toes, and flapped his hands intensely. These bubbles were so stimulating and exciting for him and I was really glad that they got to see something that is typical at home, since he had decided to do so many brand new things for them. I know in my heart that Oliver has autism, but the thought of the chance of him not receiving a diagnosis scares me just as bad as him receiving one, if not more. I don’t know if our insurance will pay for another evaluation series down the road and to know that he wouldn’t be getting the help he needs makes me sick to my stomach. Over the course of this next week, I would appreciate encouragement, positive thoughts, and/or prayers that next Thursday afternoon goes smoothly and that I am able to continue on with a level head and an open heart. Thanks everyone! I’ll keep you all updated. 

Diagnostic Evaluation Part 2

Today was the second of four appointments and, within those, was the first of two evaluations. Last week was the first appointment which was exclusively questions about Oliver, this appointment (and next week’s appointment) was the evaluation portion, and the final appointment is the diagnosis and next step discussion. As I’ve said before, I will be posting after each one to give other parents an idea of what to expect. We arrived and were shortly thereafter called back by the doctor. We followed her to the room where we had also been for the first appointment. She gave him the option of two toys to see if he’s shows preferences, offered him kitchen utensils and toys that require pretend play, and other developmental tests through toys and play. She asked me many more questions then had me try and get his attention while he was engaged in his own play; I couldn’t get him to look up. Then, as he played alone in the corner, she said that she was going to lightly blow a whistle. She said that a “normal” response would be for him to turn his head to see the noise. I told her that he does not like loud noises, but gave her the okay to see his reaction for herself. She proceeded by blowing into the whistle and, as I sat by his side, I watch him lift his head from his play, stare blankly into the corner he faced, then cover his eyes as tears welled up and his chin erupted into an immensely sad, pouted lip. He covered his eyes, then covered his ears as he screamed. After a few minutes of this, he buried his face into my lap as his screams transformed into more of a hyperventilation. I rubbed his back, talked to him, shhh’d him in attempt to calm him. Giving him a bottle of coconut water and a toy aided him back to contentedness but  it took around 30 minutes to get him smiling again. She tried to see if he would sit in a chair at the table, but he can’t sit still for the life of him, so sitting him in a chair set him off again. She asked a few more questions and then we closed the meeting and went on with our day. She said that next time a doctoral student will be joining us, and his session will be video taped in a new room. She told me that I will be with him most of the time, but I may be asked to leave the room to see how he does with me leaving briefly. I’ll post again after next week’s appointment. 

Have any of my followers gone through a diagnostic evaluation process– if so, did your appointments look like ours? Comment any similarities or differences to give other parents an idea of what to expect. 

Pre-Evaluation Thoughts

Oliver and I walked on a trail near Puget Sound before going into the UW Autism Center. We noticed the birds scavenging for leftover lunch crumbs, doctors decompressing, and groups of young people on sail boats soaking up the sun. As I felt the ocean air trace my body, I looked down at my beautiful boy and felt a sense of calmness overcome me. I love my boy with my entire being and while all of these appointments and books I have been reading have been to help me better understand what is wrong with my precious angel, I realized something that forever changed my mindset: there is nothing wrong with my son. While this may feel like a politically correct, “sugar coated” statement, I feel that the line between normal and abnormal is a spectrum in all human beings, including those who are neurotypical. While, yes, he has been facing certain struggles, they are his struggles and his peers have their own struggles that are different than my son and probably different than their friends’ challenges. He IS different, but so is everyone else. I fear for his future in being thought of as “less than” or “weird”, but I know deep in my soul that he is a unique little boy and that the only thing that all of these children have in common is that they are all different from one another. Encourage your children, your friends, your family, and your inner voice to stop thinking of your child as different, and start thinking of your child as different just like everybody else.